I like guys. Not usually a specific "type" of guy as today's society puts it. But I generally lean more towards the nerd population. I like smart guys. Its refreshing to have a conversation about more then just sports. (Though as an athletic nerd myself I do enjoy sports) But generally I find that guys who are "nerd" types are way better to like in the first place. Since, like any semi-normal female, I enjoy being treated nicely or of value to the opposite sex, they generally do treat you better then the "jock" or "musician". No girl likes to feel stupid and guys who purposefully try to make me feel stupid get to meet the "verbally abusive" Brenda. Which is not often but on occasion can happen. I generally try to treat people in a courteous manner. Why be rude? There is no point to that. Though I will be forced to retaliate if I am mistreated.
Men or boys seem to confuse the crap out of me. Generally I have a pretty good grip on them but lately not at all. When they say one thing and do another then what they say, it creates a problem. Mass confusion and irritation are usually the response to such actions. But alas, I have the tendency to just take it. I don't respond with how I actually feel I just say "fine" or "Okay, I understand". I have found this is not always the best thing to do. It tends to leave it in the guys mind that they can treat me poorly. So I have decided that I'll be honest with men (but people in general also) when I find something that has effected me in a negative way that they've done. Why should I constantly keep my feelings to myself when they have freely expressed theirs? Its not like I'm going to burst into tears and cry. No, that's just obnoxious in the first place. So I have progressively removed guys who have treated me bad from my social life or life in general. It makes life that much more simple.
Nice guys are by far the best. I have been pretty blessed with my guy friends. Most, if not all, are usually very kind to me. They let me invade their space ever now and again for a hug. I love hugs so it just makes my life that much better that they let me hug them. So basically if you want to be my friend just give me hugs and I'll be nice to you forever. If you are wanting to be more then a friend that's a whole different story. Usually that requires a hug and at least a date (hahaha not always though). I don't have huge "requirements" for guys. Mainly just be nice to me, smell good, be intelligent and funny. There is always a small element of physical attraction but usually a guys personality will win out way over that. As long as I can just enjoy being around that person that's all I really want. I've found that nice guys are the only one's a can put my trust in. And that is very important to me. Past experiences have caused me to become very closed about personal things, but the only guys I ever really share things with tend to be nice ones.
Mainly because life has taught me that I can't always trust the male population. They have alterior motives, in general not always, towards females. I'd like to believe not all males are this way. So I try to be friends with people, or males, that I can trust. That I don't have to worry will use what I share with them against me. (which has happened multiple times to me, thus my reasons for lack of trust). It is a slow and difficult process for me to accomplish but I have come a long way. Not all guys are jerks as some women like to say. On the contrary a lot of the male population is quite nice. I think that women mainly claim that because they have been treated poorly by a small population of males that our society has deemed the "social acceptable" male.
Anthropologically that is incorrect. Unfortunately society decides what is the "ideal" male. But as you may have noticed that specification changes with each generation. In the 1920's the super skinny tall males were considered the most attractive and ideal. Then as society and social norms changed, so did the ideal. It gradually changed to the muscular and tall male. Ones who were assertive in their masculinity. Just as the ideal has changed for women as well. Back in the late 1800's large women were considered beautiful (still valid in some cultures world wide today)whereas the thin women were considered less then desirable. Mainly because if you were a large women it meant that you were wealthy enough to feed yourself. Now in today's society that isn't the case. Generally the overly thin supermodels are considered beautiful and the large women not-so-much. Though I have found among my male friends that girls who are "curvy" are much more desirable. One of my friends said he likes "curvy" girls because he doesn't want to feel like he's hugging himself when he hugs someone. So I assume that's a valid reason of any. I tend to try and ignore social norms and like a person for who they are and not for what society or anyone else thinks I should like. I'm assuming that most guys like a variety of girls, very rarely have I come across a male who refuses to compromise in his liking for someone. But then again it all depends on the male. I don't pretend to understand the way guys think. On the contrary I rarely can understand their line of thought. But I've come to notice that though, among a few of my male friends, they think they wont find that "special someone", that isn't true. All of the couples I've observed the husbands are the nice ones. The one's who are not I've come to notice aren't always the happiest, and tend to enjoy bachelorhood thinking they are awesome for it. Personally I'd rather have a happy nice guy then a man who isn't content to be with their spouse/girlfriend. Then again, maybe I'm just weird. But its one of my quirks to be a bit odd. I can be very socially awkward at times.
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